Where were you?

Where were you when you first heard the sound? Good sounds – your husband’s voice, your baby’s giggle, the words “I love you?” Do you remember? Can you picture the scene and surroundings?

I experienced a condensed courtship with my wife because I was briefly called back to service during Desert Storm. I don’t recall the first expression of the four- letter L word in our relationship. I know it came, and stuck. I have said it to her every day for nearly twenty-two years. I say it every night to my girls and sometimes in front of other people, much to their chagrin.

I wish I remembered the first time I said it, though.

I will never forget the first time I heard the word Cancer as it related to my family. I was in the hospital just a week ago when it was introduced to me, while my little girl lay sleeping nearby. The doctor actually used the words “oncological event” before I made him dumb it down for me. Cancer.

I held my wife in my arms as she collapsed into a puddle. Doesn’t cancer affect other families? Why would he be saying this word? I felt an instant dislike for this man, but my mind clouded to nothing. My wife’s head heaved in my chest. I couldn’t think in more than three word bursts. I have no idea how long we stood that way. I was roused only by the sound of a man pushing a cart way down at the end of the hall. The wheel squeaked as he carried out his task and I remember thinking, “How can he be pushing that? Doesn’t he know? It doesn’t matter where that squeaky cart is! Why isn’t he stopping?”

It was then I realized this isn’t everyone’s diagnosis. It is Kylie’s and ours: our family’s, our friends and network of support. But the rest of the world will continue to march on around us.

I will add a link to Kylie’s Caring Bridge at the end of this post because I won’t allow cancer to dominate my writing. It will peak its evil head in from time to time, I have no doubt. But I won’t allow it to take over my life, steal my joy, soil my faith, or crush my little girl.

It took a while to determine the enemy. Until then, we’ve been punching at shadows. Now we start to take it out. We are at the beginning of a long road, but there is hope. Kylie knows what is going on, she is scared. We cried together and prayed. She has decided that this is happening because God must have a really big, great plan for her. I don’t know if I could have gotten to those words so quickly at twelve – she’s just chock-full of amazing.


The picture I added is one of Kylie as Annie in her school play a couple of years ago. She is an incredible actress and I can’t wait to see her on stage again.

Because our minds are reeling right now, the verse we’ve been holding onto is Romans 8:26

Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.

Thank you for your prayers and words of encouragement, friends. I have to go now, the bell just sounded for round one…




38 thoughts on “Where were you?

  1. Every prayer and good thought and wish for Kylie. We dont know why God gives us these burdens but we do know we are NOT alone. Go get em Kylie!! 💛💜

  2. Adding your sweet girl to my prayer list. Thank you for adding the Caring Bridge link. I am so blessed at her strong faith. God truly does have a plan, and it is for good–even if we cannot understand it many times.

  3. Mark, at times like this I find throwing a mug or two at the wall quite helpful for a few brief moments. Having looked through your link and then browsed, as well as my thoughts and prayers – these words from a website were ones I latched onto …

    “As a parent, the fact that your child has cancer is one of the worst situations you can be faced with. You may have many different emotions, such as fear, guilt, sadness, anger and uncertainty. These are all normal reactions and are part of the process that many parents go through at such a difficult time. ”

    Here’s to ex-mugs of many fragments. ( ( hug ) )

  4. I will most definitely pray on this for you. We had a similar scare with my oldest only two years ago and were about to schedule chemo and checking out home based learning. He is still “officially” diagnosed with a 1 in 5 million disease.
    Cam was stronger that both my husband and I. These kids really know what they are talking during these trials and can lead US in this journey. I “think” you are in the ATL metro area with me. If you haven’t, please check out the Afleck cancer/blood disorder at Children’s Hospital Emory. I recommend them hands down! Will be keeping all of you in prayer and praying for the miraculous!

  5. Mark, my sincerest heartfelt emotions are with you, and Kylie, and your whole family, as well as my prayers. Having been through a similar circumstance with a child it can be tremendously difficult with every emotion from time to time. May the Comforter do His work with you all at this time.

  6. Your best assault weapon is the sword of Truth! We are standing with you guys. We will speak the truth and fight this battle and hopefully be able to relieve you, refresh and encourage you, worship together and see the goodness of the Lord every step we advance. Praise is an atomic weapon against fear!

  7. my thoughts and prayers are with you, and kylie and your entire family. beth

    my brother heads a non-profit that funds research for all types of peds cancer if you would ever like to talk to him or pick his brain or see all of the options available. he would be happy to do so.

  8. Mark, your family is close and brave and strong together. I have noticed before how dear you are to each other. I am not religious, but I do believe the love you share is a reflection of something greater than the sum of you all and that this love will prevail throughout your fight against Kylie’s illness. My heart goes out to you and Robin, and even more to little Kylie. Thinking of you during this difficult time, Val.

  9. Oh Mark, I really feel for you and your wife. For your family. I’m sitting here writing this in tears, sincerely crying and feeling for you guys. I know there aren’t really any words that can calm the storm that I’m sure is going on you and your wife right now. Please just know that I’m feeling and praying for you.

  10. I don’t know you but came across this on a friend’s Facebook timeline. As a Mom, I can’t even begin to imagine what you are feeling. Please know that Kylie and your family are in my prayers.

  11. Mark, only God knows what tomorrow brings, but I’m betting that our sweet Kylie will continue to touch a lot of lives and even witness and save some souls through all of this. My prayer is for a miracle and that God will save you all from this horrible nightmare. We’re putting on our gloves to fight along with you.

  12. Mark, just now came across this. Keeping you all in prayer. Sounds like Kylie has the Holy Spirit’s strength. God is using her already. “All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.” Isaiah 54:13

  13. Chock-full of amazing? yep, that’s Kylie alright. Boxing gloves? Yep, that’s you Mark. Surrounding all of you as prayers warriors? That’s all of us! I hate, hate ,hate cancer. Even so, the comments made me twitch a little bit of a smile because people who do not even know The Amazing Kylie are cheering for her healing! God hear our prayers! Myers Family- be aware of our collective supporting hug. Love you.

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